Are you someone who will be single this Valentines? Well, I’ve got you. Having to explain to someone that you’re single is almost as bad as spending the day single. It’s always that “so what are you doing on Valentine’s Day?”
“NOTHING! I’M ALONE!” Well, I am here to tell you, you’re not. Valentine’s isn’t just for couples, it’s for everyone.
There is nothing worse than wallowing in self-pity when you’re alone during a very commercialised couples occasion.
Am I Bitter?
Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against Valentines Day and those who celebrate it. But even when I was in a relationship, I wasn’t that fussed about it. I am just a person who thinks you should celebrate love at all times, not just on a particular day.
My Typical Single’s Valentine’s Day
Obviously, if I am at work during the day, that stays as normal. If not, then I would usually spend it with my best friend. In previous years, we have actually gone to see one of the Fifty Shades of Grey films. What other way to spend it right? Watching a dirt film with the bestie. We sit and giggle watching all the couples coming in, sitting snuggled together, then legging it out after the film has finished.
At night, I usually get a meal for one, something fancy or order take out. Sit back in front of the TV and watching something I love. Usually, something to do with crime, my creepy obsession about the minds of killers.
But I just have a very chilled one, doing the stuff I love with people I love. Valentines isn’t just made for couples, it celebrates the love you feel for anyone.
Memories of Old
I remember a time where my mum used to get me a Valentine’s Day card. Not to make me feel better or so I wasn’t the only one not to get one. But because my mum loves me, she never signed it the old school “anon”, it was genuinely from her. One year, my sister bought me a gorgeous bunch of flowers. I have a feeling this was one of the years where it was my first Valentines after a breakup and she was just trying to make me feel good.
Love is a beautiful thing, something I celebrate with the people around me all the time. I tell people I love them quite a bit. There is nothing sweeter than hearing those three little words, it can make someone smile and their day brighter.
Celebrate! Don’t be Down
I know that this day can really hit home with a lot of people. I am here to tell you, don’t let it get you down. Do something you love, with someone you love.
I have a few pointers here, just to help you out if you do struggle with this day.
Don’t sit at home on your own, getting sad and feeling sorry for yourself. Get up and get out! Ask a friend to do something with you. Whether it’s going shopping, for a coffee or a movie. There have been many years where I have sat at home, alone, eating my weight (which is A LOT) in chocolate. This doesn’t make you feel better at all. If anything, it brings you down. Making plans gives you something to look forward too.
Comfort Yourself, Don’t Comfort Eat
The number of times I have eaten, when I wasn’t even hungry, just because I thought it would make me feel better. It doesn’t at all if just makes you feel worse and fat. Trust me! My weight gain started in my teenage years because of comfort eating and it’s a habit I have never got out of as an adult. I am such a hypocrite by the way, as I will buy myself a box of chocolates to eat. But do as I say, not as I do.
Tell Someone You Love Them
It can be anyone, your mum, dad, sister. Telling someone you love them can change so much. It will make that person feel loved, but in return, it makes you feel happy because you’ve made that person smile. Sometimes doing something for someone else, can do the world of good for you.
Buy Yourself a Gift
If you don’t feel good when you’ve bought something for yourself, then we can’t be friends. Think of something you’ve wanted for ages, but haven’t got round to buying it. Or if it’s something you can’t afford, splurge guys. You only live once, enjoy it, don’t let money stand in your way. I am not saying go out and buy a house or something ridulous. But something that you want, makeup, jewelry, clothes.
Do You! Pamper Time
This is probably one of my favourite things to do on Valentines. There is nothing I love more, then having a pamper day. Never been to a spa, but why not go? Could be what gets you out. Personally, I like doing them in the comforts of my home. Bath, face masks, nails, all my favourite things to make me feel wonderful.
Go Out vs. Stay In
Going out on Valentine’s for a lovely steak dinner is amazing. I’ve been out plenty of times with friends, but if you want to avoid the happy couples, take out it is. I personally hate cooking on Valentine’s and I always want something naughty. So dial that number to your favourite take away and get ordering.
Even though, I’m not big on Valentines, doesn’t mean I don’t want to do anything. This way when people ask, I have something planned, perfectly catered to me.
This post was really different for me and a little out of my comfort zone. All feedback is appreciated and let me know if you want to see more posts like this.
What do you do on Valentine’s Day? Single or not.